1. Avoid generic positive affirmations.
Positive affirmations are like drinking fizzy drink. You can tell yourself you are great but if you don’t really believe it, your mind will reject the affirmation and make you feel worse as a result. Affirmations only work when they fall within the range of self-belief, and for people with low self-esteem, they usually don’t. So try to say that which you truly feel and believe.
2. Identify areas of authentic strength or competency.
To begin building your self-esteem, you have to identify what you are good at, what you do well, or what you do that other person appreciate. It can be something small, I aways say look at the micro wins, a single small step in the right direction, but it has to be something.
3. Demonstrate ability.
Once you have identified an area of your strength, find ways to demonstrate it. If you are a good tennis player then join a tennis club or team. If you’re a good writer, post an essay to a blog, share your writing more widely. If you’re a good planner, organise the family reunion, the parties, gathering etc.. Engage in the things you do well and watch your self-esteem flourish.
4. Learn to tolerate positive feedback.
When our self-esteem is low we become resistant to compliments. Work on accepting compliments graciously (a simple “thank you” is sufficient, I have been guilty of saying things like “oh it was nothing”. Stop it ! Accept the praise it’s good to massage yourself-esteem). Hard as it might feel to do so, especially at first, being able to receive compliments is very important for those seeking to nourish their self-esteem.
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